If you’re heading toward a divorce and you want to make sure that it goes as smoothly as possible, it’s only natural to talk to other people you know who have already gotten divorced. You assume that they can give you some insight or some advice that will help.
But it’s important to remember that no two divorce cases are exactly alike, so you should never expect the same results that someone else got. Even if they’re being completely honest with you, getting advice from them may not help in your specific situation.
How different could it be?
Your situations may seem similar, but you have to remember that the court is going to look at a lot of different factors when making decisions. For example, here are some of the things that they consider when determining how to divide child custody:
- The physical and mental health of both the parents and the children
- The financial situation and stability of the living situation
- How important it is for children to remain near other extended family members
- How to keep children near their friends and in the same school system
- Which parent was the main breadwinner in the family and who was the main caregiver
- Whether or not the parents have a criminal record
These are certainly not all the factors that get considered, but they do show you just how different things can be. Your friend may feel that it was very difficult to get custody of their children, but that may just be because they have a questionable background or an unstable living situation. You could find that it’s very easy to split custody of your children because all the details of your case are so different.
This is why it’s important that you work with a legal team that understands what you need and how to work toward your goals.