You don’t necessarily have to talk with your spouse about divorce in advance. You can simply file and give them the paperwork, notifying them that you would like to end the marriage.
That said, most people do have a conversation with their spouse before doing so. Even if you know that you’re not going to change your mind, you may want to sit down and talk to your spouse about your desire to get divorced. Here are a few tips that can make this go smoothly.
Tell them why you want a divorce
Something is making you unhappy in the marriage. It is often best to explain this directly to your spouse. Don’t simply tell them that you want to end the marriage without giving them a reason. Be open and honest with them and explain what is happening and why.
Try to avoid other stress
Pick the right time for this conversation. If there’s a lot of other stress at work, school, or with the kids, it may not be the best time. Try to find a time when you don’t have any other pressing matters to address or any scheduling conflicts so that you can talk for as long as you want with as little stress as possible.
Don’t do it when the children are around
If you’re a parent, you’re eventually going to have to tell the children about the divorce, as well. But you don’t want to involve them in the initial conversation. Talk to your spouse first and then address this with the children together at the appropriate point.
If you’re thinking about talking to your spouse, your upcoming divorce is getting closer. Be sure you take the time to consider your legal options.